2/23/2017 3 Comments
Whole Family Support
Who I am and What I do
Who am I? What am I? I am still here trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, and decided I can't find a label for me. So here is "sarah" with her many hats that she wears. Hat's yes, I like hats and they all bring their different colors and attributes to enhance the person that I am and am still becoming.
The Many Hats of Sarah Murane
HATS = Birth doula, Mother, postpartum doula, family support guru, meal prep lady, the baby whisperer, listening ear, mentor, business owner, community liaison, daughter, sister, care giver, sleep specialist, sleep guide.
Each one encompasses the whole of who I am, what I do, and what I am creating for my future. Some of them are muted colors, others are loud and screaming pink and orange. It is who I am people!
Sarah the doula.
I work hard to bring compassionate and caring support to each family that I care for, a listening ear, an educators mind, warm arms for the baby and mom, the willingness to meet the family where they are at and to hold space or problem solve for them moment by moment, a keen eye to watch and see and remember to speak to the unspoken things and see the things that need to be done without being asked. I have a hard time differentiating my postpartum/birth doula hat from my newborn care and baby guru hat, so at times they all go with me and they magically appear and change places on my head. I become a chef, whipping up those 30 minute meals with random ingredients I find in folks pantries and then pray that it tastes good (no complaints so far someone knock on wood for me!). The baby whispering began when I was 5 or 6, I watched my mom swaddle and soothe babies the babies at church and sing the rookie rookie roo song and doing the baby sway dance. I mastered it by watching her, practicing on my baby dolls that my mother graciously let me take with me everywhere (car seat, diaper bag, clothes from the gunda, I was the ultimate 5 year old mother. My sisters LOVED ME!). By 10 years old I was the next baby calmer and whisperer, singing that song and doing the dance for those church babies. When I hold a little one, I take a deep breathe and breathe in their stress and let it out and we get to know each other, they know I love them, and I want them to feel safe in my arms. Our relationship has begun. Sarah the doula has many hats in her hat box here, I wear them proudly and happily.
Sarah the mother -
I am a work in progress as a mother, I ADORE my girls, to the point of exasperation to them and me. They are 16 months apart. The first few months and years of their life it was peaches and roses, we bonded and love each other to pieces. Their births, the nursing, the messes, solids, milk, clothes, kindergarten, preschool and now high school it has been a journey. Someone told me something that I tell myself during the frustration and me banging my pans around, "this too shall pass Sarah, this too shall pass". I lose my cool, holler, yell, feel guilty, then start again and we roll with it. Sometimes in total forgiveness and others with eye rolls and grudges. I sometimes forget that they aren't babies and then then try to feed them every 2 to 3 hours like they're infants, thinking that their blood sugars have to be low with the roller coaster of emotions we have going on and they roll their eyes and say mom were not hungry.. okay then. I'll give someone else this burrito . Sometimes it works like a charm, this mothering thing and sometimes it doesn't. Some days I lay in bed and wonder if I have ruined them for all eternity, and then the next day they blow my mind with their kindness, and amazing ability to bounce back from the journey life has taken us as a whole, and the care and empathy they provide to their grandparents and friends keeps me flabbergasted. Where did they learn this from, is this for real? I then call their dad and tell him that of course they get it from ME!!!! HAHAHA!!. My goal as a mother to these beautiful young ladies, is to hold space for them, to meet them where they are at, to provide support with love, kindness and good boundaries. I want to show them strength and integrity. Crossing my fingers that it happens. The journey has gotten easier in some aspects, but it is challenging in others. The thing I have learned is, laughing when they're so mad its cute is not okay, and that they really just want to be heard, have consistency in their life, and to know what to expect from their adults. Nice huh. Working on this!
Sarah the Business Owner and Community Liaison
I really love being a business owner. I like learning all the new things that come with business planning, marketing, growth and my dreams have always been big. I work hard, really hard to have an honest business practice that holds integrity, honesty and good practice to the highest level. I surround myself with like minded people who want to bring great amazing care to families and support the community. We as a community help each other grow and when your heart is in a place where you feel secure, things blossom. I am the navigate and connector for the community that I work strongly with. I help to plan events, be at events and put people together that can help grow and lift each other up. Some of my community that I provide services for in business and referrals are Denver Birth Services, Cocoon Birth, Elevated Health, there are more to come!
Sarah Murane - Doula, Mother, Singer, Friend. A gregarious lover of God, Life, People, and all things birth and babies.